The other day I was going through Brock's backpack and stumbled across this vocabulary test. I casually glanced over the score and scrolled down to his sentences. That last sentence caught me off-guard. I stopped in my tracks and re-read it. Then I glanced up to the top section where it showed the definition of the word.
Affection: feeling of love or attachment
...and my heart felt like it wanted to explode:)
This year has gotten off to a great start. I'm sure it can be credited to many things,
but to me, it is just too big of a coincidence to NOT be credited to ONE thing.
Since the beginning of the year, we have been working REALLY hard on our family goals.
On the first Monday in January, we gathered together and had our annual family goal planning FHE.
We each suggested a few things we thought our family should work on and then we voted on the top 3 things we each thought our family should focus on this year. After that, I got busy printing them out and the kids and Cole dug through church magazines to find pictures for our poster.
After a few minutes of cutting and gluing....voila!
We hung this beauty beside our kitchen table as a daily reminder.
It always amazes me how accurate our goals for the year turn out to be.
After we had already set these goals, our Bishop issued a challenge to each auxillary to help the members in the ward focus on 2 things: temple attendance and scripture reading.
I was so grateful that those 2 things were already in our own family's goals.
Last year we also had the goal to read scriptures 5 days a week. I have a calendar in the entryway from the garage that we marked off each day that we read. The calendar is completely full! That is, until May. From May to July there are a few sporadic marks and then from August on....nothing:(
That isn't to say that we didn't read at all from August on, but we completely quit keeping track, having a routine or putting any consistent, meaningful family time into studying the scriptures. It mad me sad when I took that calendar down. We did so good at the beginning of the year, but for the life of me, we just couldn't work out any consistent time from the summer on.
It bothered me...bad.
Then, during a sharing time, a member of our Bishopric, who has 5 little kids, began talking about his family reading scriptures at breakfast each morning. I didn't hear much else because what I DID hear was an answer to my prayers. Reading scriptures in the morning is easy-peasy for us. Even on days I work, I am here until the kids go to school.
On the first day back to school, we began our new scripture reading time. So far, it has been perfect. Cole and I work really hard to make sure we have breakfast all ready by a set time each morning and the kids eat while I read to them. We don't try to get through any set amount. I just read and ask questions and explain things. It has been so great so far. I do miss hearing them read the scriptures, but for now, this is working. Also, instead of eating breakfast on the barstools and leaving when they are done, everyone eats at the table and we all clean up together. It requires a little earlier wake-up time and a little more forethought into breakfast and morning routines, but it is working!
I have been amazed at how excited they have been to hear the stories.
I am amazed at what they recall from day to day.
And I am humbled by the power that has entered our home, even when our scripture reading is meager.
Cole and I were eating lunch the other day and I was telling him how amazed I was at the difference I could feel in our home. I mentioned that I couldn't believe that scripture reading could really make that big of a difference. He mentioned that we have also more than doubled the meals that we sit down at the table together and eat. (We also made a family goal to not eat out at all during the week. If we don't, then we can order pizza on Friday night. The kids have been totally on board with this and have helped plan out the meals and even help cook them. This has saved us tons of money and has taken a huge load off this workin' mama!)
We reflected on the general atmosphere of our home for the remainder of lunch and came away with an extreme gratitude for the principles of the gospel. For me, one of the hardest things about going back to work was that it became so hard to balance it all - to keep a clean house, plan and carry out FHE's, keep up on laundry, prioritize my time, spend time with my kids, support them in their activities, make meals and eat at home, organize and follow through with scripture reading, get homework done, stay on a budget, etc.
No matter how hard I tried, I felt like I could never get it all done or stay caught up.
I ran and I ran and despite giving it my all...I was always lacking.
Ironically, the things that fell by the wayside the most were our scripture reading and FHE's.
Since January, I've done a great job at making sure we are reading our scriptures and having our Family Home Evenings....and do you know what?!
My house has stayed clean.
The laundry has gotten done.
I've had time to sit and play the piano.
I've had time to put together puzzles with Allison.
I've had time to play basketball with the boys.
I've had time to listen to Kaitlin chatter about school happenings.
I've had the energy to laugh and flirt with my husband.
I've had the ability to shop and plan meals.
We've stayed right on budget and have been able to differentiate between our wants and needs.
I've been able to fulfill my calling and feel the Spirit direct me in those efforts.
I've still worked my normal hours and I still have all the extra responsibilities and tasks that I've always had...
but somehow...it all gets done.
And do you want to know what I think?!
I think it's TOO big of a coincidence to not be directly associated with ONE thing...
reading those scriptures and putting Christ back at the center of our home.
All of this reminds me of one of my favorite scriptures found in Matthew 11:28-30 that states,
“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."
It's amazing how quickly I forget that I don't have to try to figure it out all alone. The minute I turn it all over to him, he puts everything into its proper place and really does make my burden light.
Many years ago at an EFY session, I heard a quote that I have loved ever since.
"The minute that you turn your life over to the Lord, you will find that HE will make much more out of your life than you can by yourself. He will increase your opportunities, expand your vision, and strengthen you. He will give you the help you need to meet your trials and challenges. You will gain a stronger testimony and find true joy as you come to know your Father in Heaven and His Son, Jesus Christ, and feel Their love for you."
I know this is true.
I have been strengthened.
I am able to "SEE" through the silly stuff and focus on the important things.
And I have felt a sweet joy in being able to be the mom, wife and daughter of God that I want to be.
I have been strengthened.
I am able to "SEE" through the silly stuff and focus on the important things.
And I have felt a sweet joy in being able to be the mom, wife and daughter of God that I want to be.
I am so grateful for this month, this fresh start of a brand new year,
to learn again the lesson that I've learned so many times before.
to learn again the lesson that I've learned so many times before.
I am grateful for the feel that is in our home right now and for the small changes that are taking place, even the softening in a little boy's heart that lets him write the words,
"I have affection for my brother."
I am grateful for a loving Heavenly Father who knows the desires of his daughter's heart and waits patiently for me to return to Him. I am grateful for His outpouring of love each time I do return and for the simple changes that He helps me make.
I'm grateful for the simple process of picking new family goals together and for their daily reminder for us to aspire to more. It isn't anything grand, but it is happening - little by little, step by step - our family is becoming more and more like the family we really want to be:)
"By small and simple things are great things brought to pass."
Alma 37:6





